I typically use the minion method and pour 12-15 lit coals in a hole I scoop out in the middle of all the unlit coals. Doubt it makes a difference, but I always try to get the lit coals in a tight group rather than have them scattered about. If I'm cooking at 275, I'll start shutting the vents down at 225.
I have gaskets on the lid and door as well as a welding blanket on the lid plus reflective insulation on 3 sides of my cart (I like to tinker). Once the cooker gets up to 275, I can keep it there with 2 bottom vents completely closed and the other bottom vent cracked about 1/8". It still gets away from me fairly often. Rather than shut that last vent completely down, I'll start closing the top vent down until it stabilizes. If it goes completely bonkers, like you, I'll shut the whole thing down and take the meat off until it cools down.
My wife gave me a temp control fan for Christmas. I sent it back because I like the process of adjusting the vents. I have a stick burner on order so I'm sure that will more work and a longer learning curve.